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Misty
STODDARD
3 days after
Life, plus 30 years, for Misty Stoddard
By Gabrielle Russon - HeraldTribune.com
Thursday, August 14, 2014
SARASOTA - State prosecutor Karen Fraivillig
read the letter written by the mother of a murdered child.
Melissa Stoddard's biological mother, Lisha
Stoddard, addressed her words to Misty Stoddard, the child's
stepmother.
“I no longer get to look into my daughter's big
beautiful eyes or tuck her in at night or feel her hugs,”
Fraivillig said, reading Lisha Stoddard's words aloud in the
courtroom Thursday. “For that, I will never forgive you. You are a
poor excuse for a mother and a human being.”
A few minutes later, Sarasota County Circuit
Judge Frederick Mercurio sentenced Misty Stoddard to an additional
30 years in prison for her conviction on an aggravated abuse
charge in the death of 11-year-old Melissa.
Misty Stoddard, 37, of Sarasota County, also
automatically received a mandatory sentence of life in prison
without parole after a jury also convicted her of first-degree
murder in June.
Before her sentence, Misty Stoddard stood
before the judge and said she accepted responsibility for what
happened.
“I loved Melissa. I still love Melissa,” she
said. “I take full responsibility for the actions and inactions
that led up to this event . . . If I could change it, I would.”
Her defense team has 30 days to appeal.
Thursday's sentencing was the first in a case
that began in December 2012 when first responders arrived at the
house in rural eastern Sarasota County and tried to save Melissa,
who was not breathing.
A brain-dead Melissa was on life support for
several days until she died from a lack of oxygen to the brain.
Court documents show the child had been tied to a board and her
mouth duct-taped until she suffocated.
Later this month, the second trial in
connection to her death is expected to begin as her biological
father, Kenneth Stoddard, is charged with aggravated manslaughter,
aggravated child abuse and tampering with evidence.
Misty Stoddard was convicted of felony murder,
meaning that Melissa died during the commission of a felony — in
this case, aggravated child abuse.
Fraivillig said she believes Mercurio's
sentence was appropriate after Melissa was tortured and
suffocated.
“What is even worse was she was a special-needs
child,” Fraivillig said. “She couldn't articulate to anyone how
she was suffering at the hands of Misty Stoddard.
“One can only imagine what the child went
through.”
During the weeklong trial, an inmate who
briefly shared a cell with Misty Stoddard testified that the
stepmother admitted to taping Melissa on the night she stopped
breathing.
Misty Stoddard's teenage son also testified
that both Kenneth and Misty Stoddard regularly tied Melissa to a
board and duct-taped her mouth to keep her from crying out.
A psychologist, who had been called by the
defense but was not allowed to testify in front of the jury, said
Misty Stoddard suffered from depression and post-traumatic stress
disorder.
Melissa Stoddard was diagnosed with autism
before she was old enough to attend primary school. She struggled
when her regular routine changed and spoke basic sentences.
But at her school in Greensboro, she
transformed from an unruly student into one of her teacher's
favorite pupils.
Melissa left North Carolina in the summer of
2012 because of trouble brewing in the home where she lived with
her biological mother and older brother.
Her brother was accused of molesting one of his
stepsiblings, police records show.
Lisha Stoddard chose to send her daughter to
Florida to protect her from her son, according to a Florida
Department of Children and Families report.
Woman, 37, GUILTY of killing autistic
stepdaughter by duct-taping her mouth and tying her to a wooden
board she used to role-play sexual bondage fantasies
Misty Stoddard, 37, has been convicted of the
first-degree murder of her stepdaughter, Melissa Stoddard, 11
A Sarasota jury found she tied the girl to a
plywood sex board and taped her mouth shut
Melissa died from a lack of oxygen to the brain
in December 2012
On trial Misty put the blame on her husband and
Melissa's biological father, Kenneth Stoddard
She said he had bought the board to practice
acts of sadomasochism
Misty said he had sex with her against her will
and that she did not approve of his treatment of Melissa
By Joel Christie - DailyMail.co.uk
28 June 2014
A southwest Florida woman will now spend the
rest of her life in prison after being found guilty of killing her
autistic stepdaughter by gagging her so tightly the little girl
became brain dead.
Misty Stoddard, 37, blinked away tears after a
Sarasota jury took just two and a half hours to convict her of the
first-degree murder of 11-year-old Melissa Stoddard on Friday.
Melissa died of suffocation in December 2012
after being tied to a wooden plank with her mouth duct-taped shut.
She had moved in with her father and his second
wife - Misty - just five months earlier to escape her mothers
abusive household in North Carolina.
There she had been 'touched' by her brother,
with her mother sending Melissa away for protection.
The wooden board was propped up in the
courtroom near the jury throughout the trial and described as a
'home made torture device', The Herald-Tribune reported.
With holes drilled through the plank, the
prosecution demonstrated how Melissa would be tied to the board
each night.
The defense maintained Melissa's father,
Kenneth Stoddard, created the board to act out sexual bondage
fantasies with his wife.
Misty Stoddard said her husband would tie her
up and abuse her against her will.
She said her DNA was found on the board as a
result of the sexual acts.
The defense also claimed Melissa was only
restrained twice and that it was because she had a tendency to
become violent.
Misty Stoddard said she was worried what
Melissa might do around her newborn child.
But the court was told Melissa's body was
covered in injuries at the time of her death.
There was a black scab on her lower back,
likely to have been caused by her attempts to break free from the
board, and scars on her lips were consistent with being gagged.
'Parenting is hard and parenting an autistic
child is harder. But parents do it every day,' Prosecutor Suzanne
O'Donnell said.
'They don't kill their children.'
A woman who shared a cell with Stoddard for a
few days testified against her, saying she confessed to
duct-taping Melissa's mouth shut the night the child was rushed
unresponsive to hospital.
A teacher at Melissa's school Oak Park School
testified that he had notified a state agency anonymously in the
weeks leading up to Melissa's death after becoming suspicious over
what was happening at home.
Melissa came to school with stitches above her
eyebrow, however Misty Stoddard had emailed the school saying she
had banged her head.
The teacher, Paul Squea, said Melissa had never
hurt herself in class so he filed a child abuse report to the
Florida Department of Children and Families' website.
Around the same time, a local social worker
made an unnanounced visit to the Stoddard home to see why Melissa
had been missing weeks of school.
Misty Stoddard wouldn't let the woman inside,
instead speaking to her on the porch.
She had Melissa was out running errands with
her father.
The social worker did not return to the house.
With the evidence stacked against, Stoddard's
case that she was also a victim of absue and that Melissa's
treatment was instigated by her husband did not stand up.
She was subsequently found guilty, and
first-degree murder carries a mandatory life sentence in prison in
Florida.
She was also convicted of aggravated child
abuse, which carries a maximum penalty of 30 years in prison.
Kenneth Stoddard has been charged with
manslaughter, aggravated battery and tampering with evidence.
He is scheduled to go on trial in August.
Misty Stoddard guilty of killing stepdaughter Melissa
By Gabrielle Russon - HeraldTribune.com
Friday, June 27, 2014
SARASOTA — The final images of Melissa Stoddard
were gruesome and painful to look at in court this week.
Autopsy photos depicting slices of her swollen
brain. Other photos of the 11-year-old girl limp in a St.
Petersburg hospital bed, on the verge of death. A homemade video
that depicted the autistic child wringing her hands and crying on
her knees as she was left alone on the back porch at night,
screaming for help.
It was not the way Jai Holden-Walker wanted to
remember the girl who loved to dance and recite lines from her
favorite movies.
“That's not Melissa,” said Jai Holden-Walker, a
childcare worker from Greensboro, North Carolina who helped care
for the girl for several years. “Melissa was happy-go-lucky. She
was always smiling. She was always laughing.”
On Friday, a jury took 2 1/2 hours before
ruling that Misty Stoddard was guilty of killing Melissa, her
stepdaughter. First-degree murder carries a mandatory life
sentence in prison.
As the verdict was announced, Stoddard was
tight-lipped and gulped, blinking back tears. A bailiff handcuffed
her wrists and fingerprinted her, before she was escorted out of
the courtroom. Stoddard, 37, was also convicted of aggravated
child abuse, which carries a maximum penalty of 30 years in
prison.
Absent from the weeklong trial were any
photographs of Melissa from before, when she was happy and known
for her wild curls, playfulness and free spirit.
Melissa mimicked the Thriller dance in her
bedroom in Greensboro, and was the leader in her special-education
classroom, bossing her classmates around to her teacher's
amusement. Her favorite pastimes were swimming and singing.
Yet beneath the joy was a child who suffered.
In North Carolina, her brother had touched her,
and her biological mother sent her away to protect her. Within
five months of moving into her father and stepmother's east
Sarasota County home, Melissa suffocated after having her mouth
duct taped to silence her.
Holden-Walker's job in Greensboro was to watch
Melissa, mostly on weekends, to give her biological mother a
break. Three weeks after Melissa died, Holden-Walker quit her job.
She was afraid she would get too attached to another child, and
didn't think she could handle such pain again.
“I left it alone,” Holden-Walker said Friday.
Covered with injuries
A constant presence in Misty Stoddard's trial
was a plywood board, propped up by 15 blocks on the back so it
wouldn't lay flat on the ground. Holes were cut into it to attach
straps.
The homemade torture device rested a few feet
from the jury.
“This is where Melissa's head was every time
she went to bed,” Prosecutor Suzanne O'Donnell said, tapping the
top of the board during Friday's closing arguments.
Stoddard's 16-year-old son testified that Misty
and Kenneth Stoddard, Melissa's father, both tied the child to the
board at night. He said a sock had been stuffed in her mouth as a
gag and duct tape wrapped around the child's head.
On the witness stand Misty Stoddard said
Melissa would lose control and become violent, and required
restraint to protect herself and the other Stoddard children.
Stoddard's defense team also argued that
Melissa only slept on the board twice, and that her father put her
there. The board was meant for Kenneth Stoddard to force his
sexual bondage fantasies on Misty Stoddard, they said.
“Whose trial is this?” Prosecutor Karen
Fraivillig asked the jury. “It's Misty Stoddard's trial.
Everything comes all back to her. This is not Kenneth Stoddard's
trial. That's for another day and another jury.”
Barbara Whiteaker, who spent six days with
Stoddard in a cell, testified the stepmother confessed to duct
taping Melissa's mouth on Dec. 12, 2012 — the night the girl was
rushed unresponsive to the hospital.
DNA also matched the profiles of Melissa and
both Stoddards on the board, an expert ruled.
Melissa's body was covered with injuries. Her
lower back had a blackish scab, likely caused by her trying to
writhe free from the board. Her lips were scarred, ripped at the
hinges — consistent with being gagged, experts testified.
“Parenting is hard and parenting an autistic
child is harder. But parents do it every day,” O'Donnell said.
“They don't kill their children.”
Listening to the evidence was a jury of five
men and seven women. In the jury box, one man looked like he was
crying. Another woman clutched a tissue during the closing
arguments.
Others who tried to save Melissa's life
returned to the courtroom to hear the verdict and see the case to
the end.
Melissa's biological mother, Lisha Stoddard,
sat in the last row of the courtroom and left before Misty
Stoddard was escorted out.
“It was difficult,” said Lisha Stoddard after
the verdict. “I'm just happy with the outcome.”
Chances to help
Several of those who testified in the trial
failed to act or did not intervene soon enough to save Melissa's
life.
Paul Squeo, a teacher at Oak Park School, where
Melissa attended, testified that he notified a state agency
anonymously on Dec. 10, 2012, because he felt suspicious.
In an email to the school Misty Stoddard
claimed that Melissa required stitches above her eyebrow because
she banged her head on the wall. The child went to the hospital
Dec. 7.
Melissa never hurt herself in class, Squeo
said, so he testified he anonymously filed a child abuse report to
the Florida Department of Children and Families' website.
Teachers are not only mandated by state law to
report suspected child abuse but are also required to use their
full names when doing so.
DCF spokeswoman Natalie Harrell denied any
report was filed.
She said somebody accessed the website on Dec.
10 and typed in the name “Melissa Stoddard” twice that afternoon
without completing the process that required more details — such
as describing the child's injuries or where the child went to
school. The person exited the website without submitting the
report, Harrell said.
On the dead-end street in rural Sarasota
County, the Stoddards' next-door neighbor Kevin Dermody heard a
child crying and a woman cursing and yelling outside 20 or 30
times.
He identified the voices as Melissa and Misty
Stoddard and recognized the sounds of violence. But the
25-year-old testified he never told his parents, whom he lived
with, or alerted authorities.
“I was afraid the consequences might be worse
if I intervened,” he said.
Oak Park social worker Jody Smith made an
unannounced visit to the Stoddard home in December 2012 — days
before Melissa was killed — to see why the girl missed weeks of
school. Misty Stoddard wouldn't let her inside, staying on the
front porch. The stepmother explained Melissa wasn't home and was
running errands with her father.
Smith didn't return to the house after that.
She helped arrange additional services for
families with special-needs children. But the help for the
Stoddard household was scheduled to start January 2013.
'A huge sense of relief'
Brandi London last saw Melissa in the summer of
2012, the day before the child left to see her father and
stepmother in Florida.
They went to a camp in Greensboro where the
children danced during a music activity and made crafts. Melissa
swam in the pool — “That was Melissa's favorite thing in the
world,” said London, another caregiver who regularly watched
Melissa for two years after school and in the summer.
Melissa was no angel; she would get upset when
forced to share the swings, for example.
But after venting her anger, Melissa became
sweet again. Though some autistic children shy from touch, she
liked to be cuddled and hugged. She always gave London a kiss on
each cheek, European-style, when it was time to say goodbye.
Back in North Carolina, London followed the
Stoddard murder trial on Twitter.
“I was very, very anxious when I heard the
verdict. I was in tears, to be honest with you,” London said. “It
was a huge sense of relief, even though nothing can make it right.
... I knew I was never going to find another Melissa.”
Misty Stoddard trial: Abuse report never completed
By Gabrielle Russon - HeraldTribune.com
Thursday, June 26, 2014
SARASOTA - One of Melissa Stoddard’s teachers
failed to properly alert a state agency that he suspected the girl
was being abused, while another school official may have missed
warning signs that something was wrong at her house.
Somebody typed Melissa Stoddard’s name — twice
— on a state website used to report suspected child abuse, but the
person stopped short of completing any details or submitting a
report, a Department of Children and Families spokeswoman said
Thursday.
On Wednesday, Paul Squeo, a teacher at
Melissa’s Oak Park School, testified he had anonymously reported
concerns about Melissa to DCF based on an email Misty Stoddard had
sent another staff member.
In the email, Stoddard said 11-year-old
Melissa, who was autistic, banged her head on a wall, causing a
gash above her eye that required stitches on Dec. 7, 2012.
Five days later Melissa was again taken to the
hospital, this time by paramedics who found her unconscious at the
Stoddards home. She was pronounced brain dead and taken off life
support on Dec. 17.
Squeo testified that he never saw Melissa bang
her head and doubted Stoddard’s story. He said he used a computer
in the Oak Park teacher’s lounge to notify DCF about his concerns.
“I reported anonymously,” Squeo said in court.
“I did report the injuries.”
However, state law requires so-called mandated
reporters — teachers, social workers, doctors and the like — to
give their full names when reporting suspected child abuse.
Squeo has repeatedly declined to comment on the
case.
DCF spokeswoman Natalie Harrell said that on
Dec. 10, 2012, somebody accessed the website at 2:25 p.m. and 2:57
p.m.
The person apparently started to file a report
by entering Melissa Stoddard’s name “but did not complete any
additional steps in the process and did not submit any report,”
Harrell said. “Essentially, two separate times that day, someone
typed in her name and then chose to exit the website before
proceeding any further.”
Oak Park social worker Jody Smith testified
Thursday that she visited the Stoddards’ home in early December to
find out why Melissa had missed several weeks of school.
But Misty Stoddard wouldn’t let her inside the
house and talked with her on the front porch, saying her baby was
asleep.
When the baby awoke, Stoddard took her out to
the porch and continued talking to Smith. Melissa was out running
errands with her father, Stoddard told Smith.
“Misty had an explanation for everything,”
Smith said in court. “I found out a lot of stuff after the fact,
what happened to Melissa, but I was not aware of it at the time.”
Smith said she got the Stoddards help to care
for Melissa through Children’s Medical Services. That help was set
to begin in January 2013.
Misty Stoddard puts blame on partner
By Gabrielle Russon - HeraldTribune.com
Thursday, June 26, 2014
SARASOTA - While his mother spoke from the
witness stand, Misty Stoddard’s teenage son listened from the back
of the courtroom. In an instant, the 16-year-old jumped up from
the bench seat and rushed out, tears streaming down his face.
It was too much. His mother was calling him a
liar.
For more than two hours, Stoddard testified in
her own defense Thursday before the 12-person jury that is
expected to decide her fate today.
If convicted of first-degree murder in the
death of her 11-year-old stepdaughter, Misty Stoddard will serve a
mandatory life sentence in prison. She is also charged with
aggravated child abuse.
Melissa was a special-needs child who stopped
breathing in her bedroom in December 2012 when authorities said
she was tied to a plywood board, a helmet placed on her head, and
her mouth duct-taped shut.
Earlier this week, Stoddard’s son testified
that sometimes a sock was placed in Melissa’s mouth as a gag and
duct tape was wrapped all the way around her head, like a scarf.
The boy said he had seen both his mother and her partner, Kenneth
Stoddard, tie Melissa to a plywood board in her room — something
Misty Stoddard denied on the stand Thursday. Kenneth Stoddard,
Melissa’s biological father, is expected to stand trial in August.
Misty Stoddard testified that her partner tied
up Melissa only twice — on Dec. 11 and Dec. 12, which was the
night in 2012 that Melissa was rushed to the hospital. Misty
Stoddard said she wanted to free the girl but Kenneth Stoddard
would not let her.
The board, Misty Stoddard claimed, had a far
different purpose, one sexual in nature.
Kenneth Stoddard brought home the plywood board
for his cruel sexual bondage fantasies with her, Misty Stoddard
testified.
Kenneth Stoddard tied Misty to the board,
choking her and slapping her in the face, making her bleed, she
testified.
At times, Stoddard spoke in a soft,
matter-of-fact voice while at other times she broke down and wept,
hiding her head in her hand. She grew terse during
cross-examination, prompting the judge to remind her not to argue
with the prosecutor.
For several months, Stoddard said she wanted to
leave Kenneth, who was not her legal husband but someone she had
known since about the eighth grade. “He was very strict and
demanding,” she said.
But she had to stay.
Misty Stoddard was a mother of five biological
children — she learned she was expecting a sixth child after her
stepdaughter arrived. Her highest education was a high school
diploma.
She said she had no money, knew no one else and
could not fit her family into her parents’ two-bedroom home.
The family dynamics grew more troubled while
Misty and Kenneth Stoddard fought more about what to do with
Melissa.
“She was very resistant to me,” Stoddard said.
“I didn’t know what was wrong. Her behavior had changed so
dramatically and drastically.”
Melissa bent her baby half-sister’s fingers
back when no one was looking and was rough with the pet dog and
cat. She knocked over chairs, hid knives in her bedroom and was
aggressive with her family members, including her, Stoddard
testified.
“Melissa was a handful. Did you want her to
die?” asked Stoddard’s attorney, Jessica Wright.
“No,” Stoddard answered.
Stoddard said Melissa, whom the family called
“Mel,” called her “Mama Misty.”
“I loved her like she was my own child,” the
stepmother said.
For the fourth day jurors sat near the plywood
board that Melissa writhed against to free herself as she
suffocated, according to prior testimony.
They also watched a video of Melissa alive,
crying, wringing her hands as she sat alone in the night on a back
porch while Misty Stoddard played hide-and-go-seek with her own
children inside. The stepmother videotaped her stepdaughter’s fits
to show Kenneth Stoddard — and also outside agencies that could
provide support — how intense Melissa’s tantrums were, she
testified.
When it was time for cross-examination,
prosecutor Karen Fraivillig paced the podium as she went on the
offensive.
“She sat on that lanai and begged you to let
her in the house,” Fraivillig said. “Why didn’t you just let that
poor child into your house?”
Melissa had been living in Greensboro, North
Carolina, with her biological mother, Lisha Stoddard, and brother,
who was nearly two years older and also autistic. The brother was
arrested and charged with sexually abusing Misty Stoddard’s
daughter when he visited the family in 2012. Melissa’s mother was
told she could not keep her two children together in Greensboro.
In the summer of 2012, Melissa permanently
moved in with the Stoddards. Less than five months later, she was
dead.
Lisha Stoddard paused for a moment, wiping her
eyes Thursday as she testified about better times. when Melissa
would sing.
“When she was at a peak, she would be extremely
happy,” Lisha Stoddard, 36, said.
But Melissa, diagnosed with autism and bipolar
disorder, could be difficult, Stoddard said.
Melissa took medicine that helped her sleep and
stabilized her moods — prescriptions that Lisha Stoddard said she
paid for, filled and sent by FedEx to Florida when her daughter
left.
Melissa “had a wonderful relationship with her
father,” Lisha Stoddard said. “Hugs and kisses — the same reaction
with me.”
And then Melissa disappeared from her mother’s
life.
Kenneth Stoddard didn’t give her a plausible
explanation for why Melissa stopped using the iPhone Lisha
Stoddard bought to stay in touch, she said.
Lisha Stoddard testified that calls from the
Stoddard home “became less and less frequent” and eventually
“ended.”
She knew only her ex-husband’s phone number.
She couldn’t remember the last time she talked to Misty Stoddard —
it had been years. Misty Stoddard refused to speak with her,
Melissa’s mother said.
And Lisha Stoddard also didn’t know the phone
number and address for Melissa’s school. Kenneth Stoddard wouldn’t
tell her, she said.
Stoddard trial: A teacher's report -- unheard, or too late?
By Gabrielle Russon - HeraldTribune.com
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
SARASOTA - A cry for help may have gone
unnoticed as Melissa Stoddard's teacher testified Wednesday he
alerted a state agency about suspected abuse two days before the
child went limp in her bedroom.
Department of Children and Families
spokesperson Natalie Harrell has said the agency did not have a
record of anyone reporting 11-year-old Melissa Stoddard being
abused when she lived with Kenneth and Misty Stoddard in Sarasota
County. Even though the agency receives abuse allegations
anonymously, it can track when or if calls are made.
But in court Wednesday Paul Squeo, Melissa's
teacher at Oak Park School, said he anonymously reported to the
DCF website that he suspected Melissa was being abused. Squeo used
a computer in the school's staff lounge at about 1:15 p.m. on Dec.
10, 2012, which was a Monday, he testified during the third day of
Misty Stoddard's murder trial.
That Wednesday night, Melissa's heart stopped
and she was found unconscious in her room after authorities say
she was tortured and had duct tape put over her mouth.
Squeo said he was suspicious when Stoddard
emailed another staff member that Melissa's eyebrow was gashed
open because she banged her head on the wall. The child received
stitches at Sarasota Memorial Hospital on Dec. 7.
“As soon as I read the email, a big red flag
went up,” Squeo said.
When reached late Wednesday and given the new
details of Squeo's testimony, Harrell could not confirm or deny
the agency received his report.
Prosecutor Karen Fraivillig asked Squeo if
Melissa hurt herself in his classroom.
“Never,” he said.
Stoddard, 37, is charged with first-degree
murder and aggravated child abuse in the death of her
stepdaughter.
Melissa was an autistic child who had moved in
with Misty Stoddard, her stepmother, and her biological father,
Kenneth Stoddard, at the end of summer of 2012. Melissa died
within five months after authorities said she was bound on a
plywood board, her mouth duct taped shut and a helmet placed on
her head, until she suffocated.
Kenneth Stoddard is expected to stand trial in
August.
Throughout the trial, Misty Stoddard's defense
attorney has portrayed her as an overburdened mother who was under
the rule of Kenneth Stoddard.
The jury should begin deliberations Friday,
Sarasota County Circuit Court Judge Frederick Mercurio said.
Squeo described Melissa as a child who knew
right from wrong and was eager to do her work if it meant being
rewarded with Winnie the Pooh YouTube videos.
At Oak Park School — a Sarasota public school
for children with disabilities — a high ratio of teachers to
students helped school staff keep close watch on their pupils, he
said.
A female staff member saw Melissa getting
changed in her bathing suit, and Squeo often sat near his students
to make sure they stayed focused.
Squeo said he never saw any alarming injuries
on Melissa while she was in his care. “Not a mark. Not a scratch,”
he said.
Melissa attended Oak Park from August 2012
until November 2012, when the Stoddards pulled her out of class.
As Melissa's absences racked up, Squeo
testified he called the Stoddards at home three days in a row and
then asked an attendance clerk to attempt to reach out.
Squeo has not returned repeated messages
seeking comment and declined to comment outside the courtroom
Wednesday.
A jail cellmate
A few days before Christmas 2012, Barbara
Whiteaker met Misty Stoddard. The two women were both pregnant and
lodged in the same cell on the Sarasota County jail's medical unit
on the third floor.
For six days they were alone together with no
access to television, newspapers and the outside world. Over that
time, Whiteaker would learn all the names of Stoddard's children.
She paid for Stoddard to make a $1-a-minute phone call to talk
with her mother because her cellmate had no money.
On Wednesday, the two women saw each other
again, although this time Whiteaker was testifying against
Stoddard.
Whiteaker, 43, described what Stoddard told her
in jail about the night — Dec. 12, 2012 — that Melissa stopped
breathing.
Melissa and her 8-year-old half-sister were
fighting, and Stoddard separated the two girls. Later, in her
bedroom, Melissa screamed for at least 15 minutes, which upset her
stepmother.
Stoddard laughed after she told Whiteaker that
Melissa grew quiet, Whiteaker testified.
Later, the stepmother realized Melissa was
unresponsive in her bedroom.
During Whiteaker's testimony, her exchange was,
at times, tense with Stoddard's defense attorney, David Taylor.
Whiteaker's criminal record consists of 23 or
25 felony convictions — she wasn't quite sure which — as Taylor
and Whiteaker debated momentarily.
After informing a detective about what she
learned in jail, Whiteaker received a deal to get out of her
27-month sentence for grand theft auto. She was allowed to go to
drug treatment and received four years of probation.
On Wednesday, Whiteaker was still not a free
woman. She wore ankle shackles and remains incarcerated for theft.
Whiteaker paused for a moment and struggled to
speak when prosecutor Karen Fraivillig asked about her intentions
for testifying.
“It was to be a voice for Melissa Stoddard,”
Whiteaker said.
When Taylor cross-examined her, Whiteaker said
she was not trying to get even with Stoddard.
“This is about getting justice for a child,”
Whiteaker said. “I'm a mother of children.
Misty Stoddard trial: Google searches provide clues
By Elizabeth Djinis
- HeraldTribune.com
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
SARASOTA - Google searches found on Misty and
Kenneth Stoddard's computer revealed searches for “how to restrain
a child,” testified Detective John McHenry in court Wednesday.
McHenry was brought on the case by Detective
Northfield in order to analyze the digital evidence found on the
Stoddards' laptop computer and Coolpix camera.
Prosecutor Karen Fraivillig showed the jury a
Google search timeline McHenry had made for the laptop computer.
Searches included an October 2012 question “what if your child
does know right from wrong and chooses to do wrong?"; a November
2012 inquiry into “what punishments work for kids who don't care”;
and, in December 2012, a search for a “human muzzle,” a “silent
gag” and a “mouth silencer.”
McHenry noted that over time the searches
“seemed to be more aggressive.”
The computer belongs to both Kenneth and Misty
Stoddard and is password-protected, but McHenry said there is no
way to tell the exact person who accessed the pages.
Defense attorney David Taylor argued that the
searches for “human muzzle” may have related to sexual bondage
rather than child restraint.
McHenry found no shortage of sexual matter on
the computer.
“There was a great deal of sexual content on
the laptop,” McHenry testified, adding that around four to six
percent of the internet artifacts were sexual in nature.
Wednesday's testimony also included Megan
Rommel, a crime lab analyst from the Florida Department of Law
Enforcement in Fort Myers.
Rommel testified that nine of 23 different
spots on the plywood board that 11-year-old Melissa Stoddard had
been tied to tested positively for blood traces. Rommel said she
determined the DNA on the board matched the DNA profiles of
Kenneth, Misty and Melissa Stoddard.
When Melissa was rushed to the hospital after
she stopped breathing in December 2012, there was something stuck
on her right wrist — which an expert witness confirmed Wednesday
was duct tape. Diana Wright, a forensic examiner at an FBI lab in
Virginia, also analyzed the helmet that Melissa was forced to wear
and testified that there was duct tape on it too.
Stoddard trial: Son gives account of fractured home
By Gabrielle Russon - HeraldTribune.com
Tuesday, June 24, 2014
SARASOTA - Misty Stoddard, with a baby in her
arms and another one on the way, was growing resentful of the new
child who had taken over her home.
She confided to her teenage son that maybe it
would be better if her stepdaughter, Melissa Stoddard, an
11-year-old with special needs, lived somewhere else.
“She had said it would be better for
everybody,” the boy recounted Tuesday.
In a Sarasota County courtroom the boy, now 16,
testified against his mother as Misty Stoddard’s murder trial
continued for the second day. The Herald-Tribune is not naming the
boy, who lives in New Mexico with his biological father, because
he is a minor.
The teenager and other witnesses revealed more
about the dysfunction in the Stoddard house and the dynamics
between Melissa and her stepmother.
Stoddard, 37, is facing first-degree murder and
aggravated child abuse charges after authorities say Melissa was
bound to a plywood board and her mouth duct taped shut. She
suffocated and died in December 2012.
On a dead-end country street in eastern
Sarasota County, neighbor Theresa Dermody drove past the Stoddards’
home on the way to her own house. The Dermody family rented to the
Stoddards.
Theresa Dermody thought Misty Stoddard seemed
“lonely,” she testified in court.
Her partner, Kenneth Stoddard, was a manager at
a bookstore and often was gone, leaving Misty Stoddard with the
burden of watching the children, which included three sons, then
15, 5 and 4, and two daughters, 8 and a baby under 1. Melissa, 11,
moved in with them during the late summer of 2012, when Stoddard
was pregnant again.
Theresa Dermody didn’t see Melissa — who had
once been an energetic child who loved playing outside — with the
other Stoddard children in the yard.
The neighbor noticed how Stoddard’s tone of
voice changed when she talked about Melissa compared to her five
biological children.
“Resentment is the best word I can come up
with,” Dermody testified, describing it was like, “I have another
child here who is not mine to take care of and my hands are full
with what I already have.”
But as one mother to another mother, Theresa
Dermody — who has four grown sons — struck up a friendship with
Misty Stoddard.
“I felt empathy for her,” Dermody said, her
voice breaking, in the courtroom.
Once, she took Stoddard to Applebee’s for
lunch. Stoddard’s phone was off, and Kenneth Stoddard, who
couldn’t reach her, showed up unexpectedly in the restaurant to
check up on her.
“I didn’t know he was there until I saw it on
Misty’s face. He was walking down the aisle,” Dermody said. “She
didn’t leave with him. We stayed and finished our dinner.”
Dermody also invited Stoddard to church, but
Kenneth Stoddard wouldn’t let her go, she testified.
Dermody testified the Stoddard children seemed
well cared for and properly fed.
“If you had suspected any kind of abuse, would
you have reported it?” one of Misty Stoddard’s defense attorneys
asked.
“Yes,” Dermody said in a soft voice.
But Dermody’s son, Kevin Dermody, said he would
often go outside to talk on the phone and hear Misty Stoddard
yelling and cursing while Melissa cried. Dermody also heard what
sounded “somewhere between a slap and a punch,” he said in court
Tuesday.
Dermody said he heard those sounds of violence
and tears about 20 or 30 times over several weeks.
“There was an awful lot of yelling and
screaming coming from that house,” Dermody, 25, said. “It was
always the two of them.”
During cross-examination, defense attorney
David Taylor said to him, “You’re assuming, although you didn’t
see the child get hit and not something else.”
“Absolutely,” Kevin Dermody said back.
Dermody kept what was happening next door to
himself. He testified he was scared to call police because he
didn’t want to make the situation worse for Melissa or split up
the other Stoddard siblings.
Now, after Melissa’s death, he said he “clearly
regrets the decision not to do anything.”
After the Dermodys spoke, Misty’s son was
called to testify about what he witnessed at home.
Lanky, dressed in a collared shirt with growing
facial hair, the teenager said he is a junior in high school. When
he lived in Sarasota County, the boy talked on the phone with his
girlfriend and played on the basketball team.
But the boy calmly told how his mother asked
him to help hide the plywood board that Melissa had been tied to
in the closet after the girl stopped breathing on Dec. 12, 2012.
Later, Kenneth Stoddard — who wasn’t the boy’s
biological parent but acted like a father figure — asked the boy
to throw the board into the woods.
The boy also testified about the stress that an
agitated Melissa caused on the Stoddard household.
She had moved in with them from Greensboro,
North Carolina, where she lived with her brother and biological
mother. But Melissa’s brother was arrested for molesting Misty
Stoddard’s daughter when he visited them in Sarasota County, so
the siblings could no longer live together in North Carolina.
In her new home, Melissa dunked her younger
half-brother into the pool so he couldn’t breathe, broke her
father’s glass table and ran around the house, knocking over the
blinds, the teenager said in court.
Her tantrums came out of nowhere as she threw
shoes and toys. The child was most aggressive with her stepmother
and scratched her any chance she could and had bitten her once,
the boy said.
Melissa also tried to hurt herself when she was
in time out. She banged her head against the wall and scratched
her arms or punched her own legs, he testified.
To keep her from roaming, the Stoddards tied
Melissa to a plywood board while she slept, the boy said.
As the boy testified, the plywood board stood
in the courtroom a few feet from Judge Frederick Mercurio.
EARLIER:
Bruises and a deep purplish-black scab on
Melissa Stoddard's lower back could have been caused by the child
lying on her back as she struggled against a plywood board, a
pediatrician who examined her testified today.
This is Day 2 of Misty Stoddard's weeklong
murder trial in Sarasota County Circuit Court. Misty Stoddard, 37,
is charged with first-degree murder and aggravated child abuse in
the death of Melissa. Melissa, an 11-year-old special-needs child
with autism, died Dec. 17, 2012.
During cross-examination from the defense, Dr.
Sally Smith admitted she studied the injuries — not their causes —
and did not know whether Melissa's injuries were self-inflicted or
from abuse.
Could Melissa's injuries be consistent with her
rubbing against an interior wall or stucco, Misty Stoddard's
defense attorney David Taylor asked.
“That would be a possibility,” Smith said.
Smith, the first witness called to the stand
today, described Melissa's injuries while the photographs were
displayed on a large screen by the 12-person jury.
Smith, the medical director for the Child
Protection Team in Pinellas County, examined Melissa three days
before she died at All Children's Hospital.
Melissa's lips were scarred as if she had been
gagged, Smith testified, and there were marks imprinted on her
wrist that looked like she wore a terrible bracelet.
Smith ruled Melissa showed signs of physical
abuse that was “chronic and severe and ultimately fatal.”
“It wasn't just the day she came in. It had
been going on for a while,” Smith testified about Melissa's
injuries that were in various stages of healing. “There were so
many parts of her body that had signs of jury.”
Taylor asked Smith if she had dealt with
children who hurt themselves.
“I don't believe I've ever seen a child injure
themselves to this point,” Smith said.
Defense tries to shift blame as Stoddard murder trial begins
By Gabrielle Russon - HeraldTribune.com
Monday, June 23, 2014
SARASOTA - Two days before her death, Melissa
Stoddard lay in the hospital bed with marks circling her entire
ankle and bruises covering her thin legs. Wires sprouted up from
her body as life support machines kept her alive.
On Monday, Misty Stoddard, the stepmother who
is accused of killing the girl, bowed her head and wiped away
tears as a video of the lifeless child played in the Sarasota
courtroom.
But on the first day of the weeklong murder
trial, her defense attorney asked jurors to keep an open mind and
placed the blame on Misty Stoddard's former lover, Kenneth
Stoddard.
Misty Stoddard, 37, of Sarasota County, is
charged with first-degree murder and aggravated child abuse in the
death of her stepdaughter, Melissa, an 11-year-old with autism.
Kenneth Stoddard is the one who bought the
plywood board, fixed it up so his daughter could be bound to it
and then discarded it, defense attorney Mark Brewer said.
There is more to the case than what appears on
the surface, Brewer said, as he promised to describe Misty's life
under Kenneth Stoddard's control and “what it was like to have
this former Marine dad running the house.”
Kenneth Stoddard, whose most serious charge is
aggravated manslaughter, is expected to stand trial in August.
Prosecutors struck a much different tone as
they planned to show how Melissa had been tortured and physically
abused by both the Stoddards.
“Melissa Stoddard moved down here in the late
summer of 2012 and she was dead less than 5 months later,”
prosecutor Karen Fraivillig said.
It was Misty Stoddard who covered Melissa's
mouth with duct tape in her bedroom and “left her alone in that
room to suffocate,” Fraivillig said.
It was Misty Stoddard who was more preoccupied
with hiding evidence than calling 911 or rushing to the hospital
to be at Melissa's side, Fraivillig said.
Fraivillig and Brewer presented their opening
statements and eight witnesses — law enforcement officials,
first-responders and child-abuse investigators — testified before
Sarasota County Circuit Court Judge Frederick Mercurio.
For most of her life Melissa lived with her
biological mother and brother in Greensboro, North Carolina. But
Melissa's older brother had reportedly sexually abused Misty
Stoddard's daughter while he was visiting the family on a trip to
Sarasota County.
Because of the boy's arrest, Melissa's
biological mother was not allowed to keep her two children under
the same roof and decided to send Melissa to Florida to live with
her father and stepmother and their blended family of five
children, according to a Florida Department of Children and
Families report.
Melissa spoke in basic sentences and knew how
to articulate what she wanted. Her North Carolina educators knew
her for her passionate tantrums, but said the girl blossomed when
shown love and structure.
They remembered her as a free spirit, full of
energy, who loved to swim and quote her favorite movie lines.
On the first day of the trial, the 12-person
jury and two alternates watched haunting videos of Melissa.
In one video, the child's arms were bound
behind her as she sat alone, wriggling her legs, outside the back
of the house. In the background, Misty Stoddard could be heard
playing hide-and-seek with her biological children inside.
Fraivillig presented new details about
Melissa's last night in the Stoddard house.
Melissa was tied to a plywood board that had
been manufactured by the Stoddards to fit her body, Fraivillig
said. On the board, holes had been drilled corresponding to where
Melissa's limbs and head were. When placed on the ground, the
board was propped up by about 10 blocks.
For part of the testimony, the jurors — eight
women and six men, including two alternates — stared at the
plywood board placed directly in front of them. The board stayed
in the courtroom the rest of the afternoon, next to the clerk's
desk.
Duct tape was wrapped around Melissa's head, so
the girl — who also was wearing a helmet and couldn't turn her
head — was trapped, Fraivillig said.
Kim Northfield, the lead detective on the case,
testified that she found duct tape on the Stoddards' kitchen
counter and a hallway table, in the bathroom trash and clumped
outside on the concrete porch. It was marked as evidence.
“We found this throughout the home,” Northfield
said of the tape.
Paramedic William Green described being among
the first rescuers to arrive at the Stoddards' home east of
Interstate 75 on Dec. 12, 2012, the night Melissa stopped
breathing. The child died on Dec. 17, 2012.
When Green asked Kenneth Stoddard about his
daughter's medical history, the father told him Melissa was
autistic, bipolar and a self-mutilator. It was a conversation that
didn't make sense considering Melissa's state of emergency, said
Green, a 14-year veteran of the Sarasota County Fire Department.
“We have to restrain her to protect her,”
Kenneth Stoddard said, according to Green's testimony.
Melissa, who was brain dead, was rushed to All
Children's Hospital.
At the hospital, Misty Stoddard told a St.
Petersburg police officer that her stepdaughter was violent and
destructive, and that Melissa gave her a black eye and threw
rocks. The child was head-butting recently so she had to wear a
helmet, Misty Stoddard told him, Officer Jeffrey Kokinda
testified.
Misty Stoddard also said Melissa's fingers had
been taped to keep her from scratching the fresh stitches on her
face, Kokinda said.
The trial continues Tuesday. Misty Stoddard's
16-year-old son, a next-neighbor who heard Melissa's screams,
medical officials and a jail inmate who shared a cell with
Stoddard are expected to testify.
EARLIER:
The defense and prosecutor presented opening
statements Monday morning in the Misty Stoddard murder trial in
Sarasota County Circuit Court.
Stoddard, 37, is facing a first-degree murder
charge and aggravated child abuse in the death of her
stepdaughter, Melissa Stoddard. Melissa was 11 at the time of her
death in December 2012.
Prosecutor Karen Fraivillig said she would show
how Stoddard tortured her stepdaughter by calling on testimony
from law enforcement officials who investigated the case to
Stoddard's 16-year-old son who had witnessed the abuse. Melissa,
who had autism, had been tied down, forced to wear a helmet and
had her mouth duct taped shut on the night she stopped breathing
in her bedroom, Fraivillig said.
“Melissa Stoddard moved down here in the late
summer of 2012 and she was dead less than 5 months later,”
Fraivillig said standing in front of the jury during her opening
statements.
Defense attorney Mark Brewer said he would
present evidence showing what Misty Stoddard's life was like in
her Sarasota County home. She lived with her partner, Kenneth
Stoddard, a former marine who was in control of the household,
Brewer said.
Brewer asked the jury – which consisted of
eight women and six men – to keep an open mind.
The trial is expected to continue throughout
the week.
Kenneth Stoddard, who left the back of the
courtroom before opening statements began, is expected to stand
trial in August.
Melissa Stoddard: The girl no one saved
By Gabrielle Russon , Herald-Tribune
Sunday, June 15, 2014
GREENSBORO, NORTH CAROLINA — Jammie North’s
mind flashes back when she sees a student with the same dark hair
and theatrical, over-the-top personality. Or the boy who memorizes
movie lines and spits them into regular conversations, just like
Melissa did.
In her classroom, North still keeps the book
about the grumpy ladybug, the one she read to Melissa dozens of
times.
For North, these things are the echoes of a
slain child.
“It’s like there are pieces of Melissa all over
my room and all over this building,” says North, who taught the
child in Greensboro for three years. “As long as I’m here, I’ll
never forget her.”
When Melissa Stoddard moved to Sarasota County
in the summer of 2012 she would suffer what authorities called
egregious abuse and torture during the last few months of her
life. Melissa, who was autistic, was routinely tied up authorities
say and her mouth was duct taped to keep from crying out until one
night, in December 2012, she stopped breathing.
Her stepmother, Misty Stoddard, 37, is charged
with murder and scheduled to stand trial this month with jury
selection starting Monday. Melissa’s biological father, Kenneth
Stoddard, 37, faces an aggravated manslaughter charge and is
slated to face trial later this year.
Melissa’s abuse escalated in the final weeks of
her life, court documents show. But there were several
opportunities for someone to intervene on her behalf that were
missed — opportunities that may have saved the 11-year-old’s life.
The neighbor who heard a girl sobbing outside
but was afraid he would make the child’s life worse if he called
911. Medical staff who sewed shut a nasty gash above Melissa’s eye
and believed her father when he said the cut was self-inflicted.
Melisa’s teacher who suspected something was terribly wrong in the
girl’s life but did not report it.
Nobody saved Melissa.
*****
Melissa Taylor Stoddard was born to Kenneth and
Lisha Stoddard in North Carolina in 2001. The Stoddards, who met
in the military and married in 1998, were already aware of autism.
Their first son, 20 months older than Melissa, also was diagnosed
with the disease.
At McIver Education Center, a Greensboro public
school for children with disabilities, Melissa was a handful.
She once kicked over a filing cabinet in a fit
of rage. Another time she refused to come in from the playground.
When a school psychologist asked her to name
shapes during a math test, Melissa would only say “triangles.”
Melissa was fierce and stubborn, but she met
her match in North, who spent 14 of her 15 years teaching special
education.
North was on her own since her mother died at
age 15 and her father remarried and moved away. She paid her way
through college by waitressing at a truck stop, cooking breakfast
at Burger King and getting financial aid.
Special-education teachers are high burn-out
jobs — North often walks five or six miles a day, hurrying after
her students.
North found creative ways to quiet Melissa’s
fits, which never included restraining her.
During one of Melissa’s rages, North and
another adult escorted her out of the classroom. They debated the
best laundry soaps, a conversation so trivial it made Melissa stop
crying and look up bored.
Another time a teacher’s assistant ordered
Melissa to stand in the corner and count to 100.
“One! Two!” Melissa shouted.
The anger subsided by the time she reached “Bity,”
because she couldn’t pronounce her f’s.
North knew the root of Melissa’s tantrums was
often change and the unexpected.
The teacher laminated pictures on the wall and
set up a chart so Melissa always knew what was happening next,
whether it was time for a snack or computers.
Melissa was fascinated by ladybugs, so North
set up a reward system with ladybug cards. If Melissa collected
four, she could play with a toy she liked. The same classroom
routine, day after day, made a difference. Melissa finally
understood what was expected.
“She knew we cared about her. She knew there
were boundaries. She knew there were good things in store for
her,” North said. “I tried to be a nurturing person she could
count on.”
Halfway through the 2009-2010 school year
Melissa was a different child. Now, instead of breaking the rules
she was enforcing them.
“Sit down!” she would say to her classmates who
wiggled in their chairs.
“Stop it! That’s disgusting!” she reprimanded a
boy picking his nose.
She was a teacher’s dream.
“Once she got the system down, everybody else
was going to follow the system,” North said. “And they’d listen to
her because Melissa had a leader alpha type of personality.”
Melissa even sat still and allowed a teacher’s
assistant to brush her wild curls. She no longer howled if anybody
touched them. The assistant put her hair in bows or back into a
ponytail. She emailed the other staffers, reminding them to
compliment Melissa’s new look when they saw her in the hallways.
The staff marveled at how creative and free
Melissa was.
She belted out Disney songs, like an opera
singer, when the class listened to music. She held a boy’s hands
and swayed, back-and-forth during ballroom dance lessons.
“She did everything with passion. If she had a
behavior, she was passionate. If she was happy, she was
passionate,” said her former principal, Sara Nachtrab. “There was
no middle ground with Melissa.”
*****
Kenneth and Lisha Stoddard separated when
Melissa was about 5. Her father reconnected with an old high
school classmate named Misty in Oregon and they eventually
relocated to Florida where they raised their blended family in
rural Sarasota County.
Back in Greensboro, Melissa’s former educators
say the young girl seemed to be doing well at school and at home.
Her school attendance was excellent and she
always looked clean and well-kept. She was a picky eater, refusing
to drink juice or eat the cheese in her Lunchables, but she looked
healthy.
Then came a warning sign that Melissa was
troubled.
In 2007, the little girl who was turning 6 that
year visited her father in Sarasota County and was “obsessed” with
trying to pull down his pants and touch his penis, according to a
report from the Florida Department of Children and Families, which
investigated the incident.
“Melissa seems to be driven to do this,” read
the report, which raised questions whether Melissa had been
exposed to sex before.
Around that same time Melissa and her brother
were caught touching and licking each other in their Greensboro
condominium.
At one point the siblings slept in bunk beds in
the same bedroom, according to several of Melissa’s afterschool
caregivers.
*****
It was a trip to see their father and
step-mother in Sarasota County — one of several such trips for
Lisha Stoddard’s children over the years — that changed everything
for Melissa.
In July 2012, Misty Stoddard walked in a room
and saw Melissa’s biological brother pulling up his shorts while
her daughter hid her head under the pillow, according to a
Sarasota County Sheriff’s probable cause affidavit.
Melissa’s 13-year-old brother was arrested and
charged with a felony count of lewd and lascivious conduct.
Misty’s daughter reported the boy had molested
her three times since he arrived from North Carolina, the
affidavit said.
The state attorney’s office decided the boy was
not competent to proceed with the case.
But Lisha Stoddard was forced to make a choice.
Child-protection services warned her that her two children could
no longer live under the same roof. The mother could send her son
to a group home or Melissa to Florida to live with her father.
Lisha Stoddard, who declined repeated requests
for comment, chose the later.
She bought Melissa an iPhone so they could
Skype and stay in touch.
*****
Melissa wasn’t coming back to North Carolina,
and immediately North and others who nurtured her were worried.
They were also powerless.
Everything would be strange for Melissa. The
little things, such as hearing frogs croak at night in the country
or opening the refrigerator located in a different spot in an
unfamiliar kitchen, could upset her.
Melissa was leaving the school system she
attended all her life and switching to a new school in Sarasota
County. And instead of living with just one sibling, Melissa would
have to adjust to five half-siblings and a stepmother. Would her
father, who rarely saw her, know how to care for his disabled
daughter?
All this change could unhinge Melissa after she
had impressed everyone with her progress.
“Even in the most perfect circumstance, it
would have been a hard transition for one of our kids, for her,”
North said.
The order in Melissa’s life — which had allowed
her to blossom — was suddenly gone.
Since age 3, Melissa showed signs of autism.
A person with Asperger’s syndrome — a mild form
of autism — once compared the disease to drinking coffee without a
filter, said Melissa’s former principal, Nachtrab.
Strong. Jarring.
“That’s how it is for many of our children.
Just navigating through an environment. Noises, lights, clothing,
everything is just magnified. And brighter and louder and
scratchier...like all your nerve endings are exposed,” Nachtrab
said.
Some households dissolve into war zones with
the diagnosis.
North told stories of her students breaking
every window in the house and going on destructive rampages. Some
were violent to their parents or took charge, demanding to be fed
at 1 a.m.
Families often struggled on weekends — free,
open days with no plans — when a child with autism lost the rigid
structure of school.
North knew how to handle her autistic students.
She was equipped with the training, the resources and the drive.
But she worried about what happened when her students went home.
“I’ve always said I’d love to start a show —
Autism Super Nanny — because the home life, in so many cases, is
just hell on earth,” North said. “Here’s the thing. I chose to be
here. I’m educated for it. I’m interested in it. I like it.
Parents don’t have a choice. They may or may not have the skills
to raise that child, a special-needs child.”